If you want a variety of fruits included fridge unfriendly ones:

Could you keep a bunch of fruit at work instead of bringing one each day?

Or keep a picture of fruit in the fridge with your lunch and trade it for the fruit when you pack your bag so you don’t forget it?

I put it in the fridge to keep from overripening. Rarely buy underripe bananas.

What questions do you avoid asking people in order to not risk getting to know them better?

Damn, you’re hot right now

“What takes three days and isn’t even worth the wait?”

“Getting AI to produce a halfway decent joke.”

As a kid one of my favourite passages to read was about a girl who saw her twin get ran over by a car and killed. I don’t remember anything else about that book… but I would devour anything sad and traumatic and upsetting. I would absorb those emotions and live those lives, and it would be like a daily catharsis to read something horrifying and cry it out.

I suppose, as long as they actually enjoy it - painful groan or not.

I’m luckily not attracted to people who don’t enjoy my company, hopefully neither are you.

I look like a scared kitten hiding in the corner, except I’m not a cute kitten, but rather looks like a mini-tiger. That was what I was like in school.

You should write that autobiography. I think you have a way with words.

You can write something for yourself and for other people to understand you through, without the intention of leaving it behind. Leave it alive instead. You can do it and carry on. You can know their reactions instead of wonder, if you decide to show them. And you can work through your experiences through writing. Preferably while being in contact with a support group or therapist, because writing it will for sure drag it up.

the poster child for window-licking buffoonery.

I’ve never heard this before. It’s amazing.

When someone laughs at my jokes they instantly become more attractive.

It’s not the only thing needed to make someone hot - I don’t think I know of one thing that would do the trick regardless of anything else… but it’s a big leap towards it for anyone, because it combines them laughing and having fun (which is attractive) with making me feel appreciated and included and good about myself (which opens me up socially to feel attraction).

On the flip side, someone who doesn’t laugh at my jokes will become irrevocably unattractive regardless of anything else.

Started taking my workout seriously, and didn’t want to ruin all progress built in rest/recovery by smoking after a workout, and didn’t want to smoke before a session to not smell like shit and be out of breath the whole time. Eventually I was up to working out once or twice a day and found i had zero suitable time left for cigarettes, and at that point I barely missed them anyways. I chilled out with my training but didn’t pick up smoking again, even on my off days. I just reach for my phone instead.

What?

Explain please?

Huel (and sufficient water throughout the day, in addition to the water in the shake).

I can definitely tell when I haven’t had it for a few days.

Because you want them to have multiple positive adults around them, people who can watch over them in situations where a parent would be too “embarrassing”, that they can learn different perspectives from, that they can ask questions and get answers to stuff their peers would just pull out of their ass.

You want them to have safety in numbers, that there will always be someone available to turn to if they need to talk or feel unsafe.

Plus it’s fun to play schoolyard games and soccer and do seasonal crafts and teach them how to play card games or change tires on a bicycle or put up a shelf or make a cake or how to respectfully greet different animals.

And as a bonus you only have to be responsible for them when we hang out, not every day of the week like a parent has to.

Why wouldn’t you want to be friends with kids?

I know I personally would be a lot more distracted and probably perform worse at my job if I was being recorded, and don’t work with a fraction of the pressure of healthcare. I’d rather my surgical staff is comfortable and focused than have my curiosity satisfied.

If the staff is fine and comfortable with it it would be fun to have a recording, but I wouldn’t demand it.

Is this an actual definition or yours? What’s the difference between wealthy and rich?

No iron

Hopefully he’ll realise that this is an issue that needs to be dealt with asap. If he waits too long, you might become detached to protect yourself from the constant negativity, and once he’s ready to fix things you might not have any positive emotions left towards him or the relationship. This kind of stuff gets worse the longer it goes on, because it causes new issues as a response.

It could be stress, it could be that you need a break from the routines you’ve gotten into, it could be a midlife crisis even; pondering what life has become and what it means going forward.

Stress management, couples therapy, time apart, or time together doing something new (stuff like dancing or climbing maybe, where you’re working as a team)… There are many options, depending on what the issue is, as long as you’re willing to work on it.

Relationships need care, just like plants and cats do. I hope he’s willing to care for yours.

Ask around if you have a neighbour or friend willing to plant sit for you during winter. People like doing favours for each others if you’re just willing to ask for it. Or maybe it can be brought to work with you, husband, neighbour, or even to the kids classroom to liven up the place in winter?

I wonder if your husband is always so defensive or if something is going on, as that wasn’t super constructive. Maybe you both have better communication skills when you’re not affected by the morning stresses.