Go to geolocation.com. It will use typical geolocation data to locate your public IP address. If it is in NY, you have your answer. Mobile network providers assign your public IP address, and sometime geolocation services place them in the wrong location. Not much you can do about it.

We do, but it is mostly used by children. “Takes one to know one.”

I just moved from NC to the Pacific Northwest for very similar reasons. Remote work in tech and no close family ties back in NC. My partner and I moved here a few months ago and while the cost of living is definitely an adjustment, it has been a positive change in every other way. The weather is great and the people are wonderful. I no longer get nervous or anxious going out in public. I actually enjoy restaurants and farmers markets here. You only get one life. Be happy.