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Ill be honest, i agree that therapy may be needed, here.

Ive tried this with them. It doesnt work.

Im not a therapist, so take this with a grain of salt, but this is concerning to hear for me. It gives me the impression you might be closed off to your role in the conflict and the effort your spouse is putting in to understand your side (assuming there is effort to talk in any way). Talking together as a couple isnt a “Im trying”, its a “We’re trying.” “We” coming from the recognition that both sides are trying to understand the other even if resolution hasnt been found yet. Dont approach it as a “talk with them”, theyre not a dependent that needs a lecture, but rather as a “talk together” where both sides are actively heard and recognized regardless of if the other agrees. The goal is to understand the other, not necessarily to make your side heard. Once you both understand the other persons perspective, it becomes easier to find the disconnect or middle ground.

Declaring “it doesnt work” isnt trying to understand the other, its shutting things down and wont solve anything anytime soon.

So…i hate to add to it…but my husband is mildly autistic and we’ve had this exact conflict with gift giving early in our marriage.

He sees the act of gift giving very logically and practically, which is perfectly fine, but i didnt really understand this early on in our relationship. We eventually sat down, talked about how we each felt, and it clicked that we had a disconnect on the social/emotional layer of gift giving. I saw and felt that gift giving was more of an act of showing the other person they crossed your mind; a display of emotion. On the other hand, my husband saw and felt gift giving was more about making sure the item is exactly what the other person wants, including if that item is “nothing”; logical, literal, and practical.

Sit down together and talk. Use “I” statements, keep calm voices, and dont interrupt. The goal is to express how you feel, listen to how they feel, and work together to help each other understand both perspectives.

They provide the instructions, but last time I checked they took down the install files. Im hoping they come back because i would love to give it a try on my system.

Edit: Just rechecked and it looks like everything is there including files. I know what im doing tonight!

So I was 5 when WoW released and it was my first mmorpg followed by EverQuest. I couldnt type, my mom had to do it for me and when she did the other party members were always surprised because i apparently played really well.

Played until my character level was nearly maxed out, but my dad deleted the character to make room for another god damn character for him to max out. My interest sort of died and never picked it back up again, though ive thought about it.

Its what first got me on the computer in the first place and sparked that initial IT career interest.

I’m a bit anxious Steam is taking the initial steps of enshitification with their recent store front UI update, but that could just be me being a grumpy fart about change.

I saw that on our calendar this year and laughed. The company i work for had a huge influx of buisness for a year or two, but they mismanaged the hell out of the profits. With everything going to shit this year they had to let go of over half the company, including my husband just days before his hire date anniversary when he would have gotten more vacation days and his yearly raise… Yeah…boss…i dont have many reasons to be thankful this “bosses day”

If you count discord, just about every night. We have a whole list of things we rotate between from movies, games, and brain rot videos.

In person, once every few months. We get together for some holidays, events, etc.

It almost reads like an AI pretending to be an adult thats pretending to be a middle schooler.

So… first thing in the morning, automatic telling machine you make sure to look at the big black cock?

The idea of there being an ATM version of you that likes to look at big black cocks first thing in the morning gives me a chuckle.

Ours isnt walkable. We live dead center of a suburban neighborhood thats equal distant between two major roads with various grocery stores, restaurants, and shops, but its a minimum 45 minute walk just to reach either major road. Its another 10 minute walk if you want the grocery store and 15-45 if you want a place to eat.

There are no sidewalks for about 100 feet on both ends of the only road that connects the two major roads and our large neighborhood. This isnt really an issue on one side because theres grass you can still walk on, but on the other end you have to walk across a shoulderless bridge to reach the main road or climb over the 6ft deep drainage ditch to get to a parking lot that runs next to the bridge.

We tried walking to a restaurant once and havent had the energy to try it again which is a shame because we have an insanely diverse number of options for food and shopping, not that we can really afford it anymore.

I get called on at work a lot for questions and training on our websites, but i honestly feel like the least knowledgable person in the entire company. It took a few years before it dawned on me that im not called on a lot because of the information i know, but rather for my ability to find the information i dont.

…and the call back ring tones. For about 5 years i hated calling one person in particular because id have to listen to Hey, Soul Sister every…fricken…time.

I was born in 96 when my mom was 19. I remember sometime in middle to early high school looking up the generation year cut offs and thinking it was wild my mom and i were considered the same generation; her being the start of the generation and me being the end.

Obviously thats no longer the case with current generation year cutoffs, but im now starting to see 96 included as the first year of gen Z which feels…wierd. I definitely dont connect with people of gen Z easily because it feels like…well…a different generation, but at the same time I feel a disconnect with other, older, millenials because they tend to remember the 90s more than myself. Im not sure about anyone else, but being born in 96 feels like being stuck between two generations that you partially relate to, but not really.

My husband and I agreed on the rule that he gets one borat “my wife” a month after he abused the fuck out of it for a week straight. About 5 days into the month, every month, he remembers his allotment reset back to 1 and says it. Never fails to get an eye roll and a chuckle out of me.

why? Are you genuinely not able to do this on your own? Have you never sat with someone and chatted in your own home or theirs just to hang out? Have you never walked somewhere with someone to catch up with them in the moment? Have you never just played an old board game? Or hell, any free game, made up or not with another person? Have you never made up short stories with a group like campers over a campfire? Have you honestly never spent bonding time with another human being without feeling obligated to spend money?

Im honestly baffled at the idea of avoiding another human being or even cutting ties with a close friend because theyre not as financially well off as yourself. Im pretty angry about this because it hits a bit close to home for me. I know what its like to be that broke ass friend as well as the flip side of the one spotting a broke ass friend. Shit happens. Financial ruin can happen to literally anyone for more reasons than avenues exist to get out of said financial ruin. Speaking of the U.S. specifically, something as small as a minor health issue can force a middle class household from a comfortable savings to filing for bankruptcy.

If you truely care about someone you find a solution that works for everyone when you want to hang out. Throwing your hands up and saying “oh well, too sad, come back when you have money again” is so…so…shallow, rude, heartless, fucked up, and up your own ass.

Thought experiment: Would you want to hang around with someone who’s broke and homeless? Someone you can’t do anything with that requires spending money in any way, leading to a very reduced list of possible activities?

Wtf, yes, theres plenty to do with people that cost nothing and spending money is not why i spend time with people. Im not going to shun someone, stranger or not, because theyre not able to afford the same luxuries.

Menards is in my area and it’s fucking terrible. Their “20% off” is a mail in rebate for store credit, only and it’s a perpetual “sale”. It never actually has an end date like their ads claim. From shopping there just about every menards exclusive brand item ive purchased was over priced and broken in less than a year. I also know a handful of people that went from die hard menards fans to “never shopping there again” over the last few years because their prices on nearly everything have gotten ridiculous compared to literally any other store, online or brick. Their website is a pain to navigate, too and tries really hard to make you think the 20% off price is the final price on items.

Thats how I text and it’s 100% my adhd.

Ours is a cheap model, but the knobs are held on with a plastic housing inside the knob similar to that middle plastic tube that holds keycaps center on keyboards. Im constantly worried its going to break when i take them off to clean.