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  • Sebeck0401@feddit.nltoPrivacy@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Best country for VPN on vps
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    4 个月前

    Hey, can you give ms some details or guide for your setup. I want to get a cheap pc and put truenas on it and then I’ll need a way to connect to it but I’d rather not use zerotier or tailscale cos they don’t feel that private to me. Also could you tell me what the big deal is with piHole? (I have proton VPN for tracker blockers and stuff like that)

  • Sebeck0401@feddit.nltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Why does it seem like so many (young) men these days flock over to types like Andrew Tate?
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    7 个月前

    Another possible reason may be online dating.

    https://youtu.be/x3lypVnJ0HM

    Most people use online dating. Average looking men have very low chances to get a match because of : The much lower number of women on these platforms compared to men; which leads to the logical consequence of men lowering standards to increase their chances of getting a match; which of course leads to women being more selective causing a feedback loop that compounds on itself. So only the highly attractive men get a lot of likes and this leads to them being promiscuous which makes women think all men are assholes. And because finding a date is easy for women it’s also very easy to ghost men for the smallest things.

    And this whole system is also propped up by the Match group which owns all major dating apps in order to squeeze out as much as they can out of desperate people, basically monetizing loneliness.

    When you swipe and swipe for months and only get one date and get ghosted right after, you start to devalue yourself, what other explanation can there be except that as a man you are horrible. And you spiral into depression and blame yourself (when in fact the whole system is wrong and is bad for both men and women).

    Then suddenly comes a macho man who tells you that women are the problem, that it’s not you (and that they also have courses to sell that will make you finally get women), of course you’re gonna believe him, finally a way out of depression. A wrong way, a shitty way, but a way nonetheless.

    These people are hurt and are acting out in the wrong way, leading to more hurting. And people like Andrew Tate are getting rich off of it.

    PS: A long time ago OkCupid had you answering between 20 and a few hundreds of questions, plus answers you’d expect from your potential partner, plus how important that question is for you; and then it would show you a list of matched in order of compatibility. It was amazing. (but it got bought out by Match and turned into a tinder clone).

  • Sebeck0401@feddit.nltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Why is everything shit?
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    8 个月前

    If everything I see in the news all the time makes me feel like the world is shit, well that’s just unhealthy.

    So I’ve subscribed to some good news channels on YouTube, and I try to limit the amount of bad news that I digest.

    Staying informed of what’s going on in the world is great, but not if it comes at the price of your sanity.

    So read some good news, write a list of things you’re grateful for, take a walk in a park, meditate in the sun a bit, and remember that overall people are kind (free open source software exists, volunteering exists, food banks exist, etc).

  • Sebeck0401@feddit.nltoA Boring Dystopia@lemmy.world•Fucking leeches
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    9 个月前

    I somewhat agree with you. And I 150% agree that “rent seeking behavior” doesn’t add to society.

    But what if you want to sell a product you designed but can’t afford to create it or to setup a factory for it, so you want funding, so you try to get investments, maybe by selling equity in your company. Is that not valuable to society? The people that take the risk that your product may not sell?